Comments on: Responding Responsibly.

By: Keri

Keri — Wed, 04 May 2011 20:43:36 +0000

It shocked me too Loraena. It was a lot of comments like “abuse is bad, but the case involving Tina Anderson wasn’t abuse.” I disagree with that line of thinking entirely. What happened to Tina was horrendous. It was abuse.

Honestly, I think the fall out is directly linked with an allegiance to Chuck Phelps. The simple link to that case made the rest of what I said irrelevant to some.

Thank you for the support and encouragement!

By: Loraena

Loraena — Wed, 04 May 2011 20:02:19 +0000

Thanks for posting this, Keri. I find myself a bit incredulous to read that this post resulted in fall-out. Ditto 100% on what Mari said. =) Scripture is very clear on defending the defenseless.

By: Abigail | the Grace post

Abigail | the Grace post — Thu, 24 Mar 2011 00:52:54 +0000

[...] addressed one aspect of abuse in my post Responding Responsibly. I have a lingering concern that there are women hurting around me in silence. Abused by husbands [...]

By: Keri

Keri — Fri, 06 Aug 2010 11:53:48 +0000

Thanks Mari! There has been fallout from this post. Such is life. Surprisingly (or not so surprisingly) there has been less fallout about this article than the one I wrote about dressing casually for church. What I find difficult this time is that people actually disagree when it comes to the abuse of kids. I just cannot wrap my brain around that one.

I will not back down when it comes to the defense of women and children. They need to know what the Biblical boundaries are, so that if something terrible like this happens to them, they can respond with confidence. The issue of abuse within the church has bothered me for years, and the Trinity case was a reason to write.

By: Mari Ramler

Mari Ramler — Fri, 06 Aug 2010 05:05:00 +0000

The fact that anybody might think you’re “liberal” from reading your post on abuse is sick. I am amazed at how many Christians lack common sense. What happened at Trinity and what happens in Christian homes where abuse takes place must make God want to throw up. It has been horrifying to hear all the stupid excuses Christians have made for what happened at Trinity. True religion defends the weak and defenseless. That is what Scripture teaches. I hate that this is even a discussion. It’s a no-brainer. Thank you for saying what needs to be said. It’s truly sad that it isn’t being said more.

By: Keri

Keri — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 01:14:17 +0000

Cheri, I’m glad you were encouraged by this article. While a woman has a God defined role in marriage there is also personal responsibility. Its sickening to hear from women who have endured abuse at home in order to please God.

It is my prayer that women will do their best to submit to their husbands, but will have the wisdom to stop if their husband is doing them or their children harm.

By: cheri

cheri — Thu, 03 Jun 2010 14:56:03 +0000

Thank you for this, very few are willing to bring true Biblical perspective to this subject. Another area that is distorted about wives submitting to their husbands that is taught in many churches is that woman who submit to their husbands no matter what they are told to do or say will be blessed, that they HAVE to submit. That husbands are their covering and because of that God will honor them.
I don’t see that in Scripture. Two examples: Ananias & Sapphira in Acts 5, Peter gave Sapphira her own chance (all alone) to tell the truth and come clean about the money. She lied also not knowing what happened to her husband, saying the same story he told. Peter didn’t say, well you were just obeying your husband, you have to do/say what Anaias said – no, she also was struck down dead.
The second is in I Samuel 25, Abagail interceded when her husband Nabal refused to give food and water to David and his men. She did the right thing and Nabal was really angry at her for going behind his back and disobeying him, Nabal was struck dead by God, Abagail was honored.
I am not saying we women/wives should be unsubmissive or insolent – we need to obey God rather than man…

By: Keri

Keri — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 17:04:37 +0000

Thanks Diane. I obviously feel strongly about this topic. I hope that this post gives women some Biblical empowerment if they ever find themselves in an abusive relationship.

By: Diane Heeney

Diane Heeney — Tue, 01 Jun 2010 15:12:14 +0000

Good post Keri. This is a constructive use of the current circumstances. This helps the “for good” to happen. Thank you.